Learning To Master Our Emotions

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It is often said that we should never let our emotions divert us from doing what needs to be done. We should check our emotions. Otherwise, our emotions will start controlling us. We will become cheerful when we stop responding and begin controlling our emotions.

The indication of intelligent people is their potential to control their emotions by the implementation of reason. We should not allow people who do not bother about us to exploit our feelings and emotions or want to control how we judge ourselves.

We should never proffer that much power to anyone else. Our mood decides how we interact with people, how much money we expend, how we cope with challenges, and in what way we spend our time.

Emotions are strong. Achieving control over our emotions will definitely assist us to become mentally strong. Just like any other art, handling our emotions needs practice and wholeheartedness. Controlling emotions is not the same as subduing them.

Overlooking our sadness or pretending we are fine, we have no pain won’t make those emotions disappear. In fact, unwanted emotional grieves are likely to aggravate over time.

We can attain control over our emotions by maintaining the following ways:

1. Categorize our emotions
Before we can change our feelings, we need to accept what we are experiencing at the moment. Are we nervous or feeling frustrated? Are we unhappy? We have to put a name to our emotions, keeping in mind that we might experience a whole bunch of emotions instantly -like anxiety, frustration, and impatience. Labeling our feelings can grasp a lot of the sting out of emotion. It will help us to take cautious note of how those feelings influence our decisions.

2. Reassess our thoughts
Our emotions influence the way we perceive incidents. Reassessing our thoughts to build up a more practical view is necessary. Sometimes, the best way to obtain a distinct perspective is to go a step back and think about what we would say to a friend who had the same problem.

Getting answers to the question will help us to think more rationally. If we find ourselves engaging in negative thoughts continuously, then we have to change the approach of our point of view. A quick physical exercise like taking a stroll or removing dust can assist us in rumination.

3. Involve in a mood enhancer
When we are in a bad mood, we have to contemplate positive thoughts for a better feeling. We have to think of the things to do in a happy mood. Staying stuck in negative thoughts is not beneficial for our mental and physical health. To rejuvenate ourselves, we can call a friend, listen to music, or meditate.

We have to keep practicing these emotional regulation things. Controlling our emotions can be tougher sometimes, but we have to do this. We will become mentally strong when we spend more time and attention regulating our emotions. Then only we will obtain confidence in our capability to handle disappointment and failure successfully.

The above is a very western approach to handing emotion that is also in synch with what is taught in university subject of psychology in elite western universities. The ancient Indian approach to this situation is quite different. It considers the mind as part of the body and not part of aatma. The ancient Bharatiya approach is to focus on aatma that is happy by itself without a worry about the material world and not seeking endorsement of others. The focus is on withdrawing and de-emphasising from the material world to find real and steady happiness. When we withdraw from the material world and give it less emphasis, automatically our emotions become more in control.

Note: Also read about ethics and values as per Hindu Sanathana Dharma – Samanya Dharma, Apad Dharma, Vishesha Dharma